I’m thinking of the term “unconditional love”. And the opposite being “conditional love”, where I shudder, thinking “I don’t want that!”. But, when I track it down, it stems from a “conditioned love” and conditioning I have a lot of empathy for. We’ve all been conditioned in so many ways, for so many years! To get to unconditional love, I’m invited to break through the conditioning (not the conditional) and that is a wonderful, if sometimes also painful process!

On the whole, that brings me a relieving exhale because it allows me to spend much more time with my conditioning, including conditioning around love instead of just trying to love unconditionally, which can take a while! Phew…🤗

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